Stop Being Polite With Your Healing & Growth

You were the kid who learned that being "good" meant being invisible, or that love was a prize you won for being high-achieving and low-maintenance. 

You spent years shrinking your personality to fit into the rooms you were given. Now, as an adult, when you try to take up space, your nervous system treats it like a crime.

That’s why I’m advocating for you to be unhinged with your self-improvement.

When I say unhinged, I’m not talking about you becoming a cold, narcissistic machine. I’m talking about you being so radically authentic that you no longer have the capacity to pretend. 

It’s about being "embarrassingly committed" to your own safety. It’s the kind of healing where you stop apologizing for having a nervous system that needs quiet, or a heart that needs boundaries.

You feel guilty because you’re breaking a generational contract that said: "I will be whatever you need me to be so that I am safe." 

Tearing up that contract is loud, messy, and feels dramatic to the people who are still holding their pens, waiting for you to sign. 

But choosing yourself isn’t an act of war against others; it’s an act of peace for yourself. 

And being "unhinged" is the most self-honoring thing you can do. It’s you telling that inner child, "I’ve got us now. You don't have to perform anymore. You can just... be." It’s the freedom to be real without checking the room for permission first.

🎙️Be Unhinged About Your Evolution

This week’s episode is an unapologetic manifesto on being "unhinged" with your self-improvement and why you must be embarrassingly committed to your own healing. You’ll learn why making your inner peace your entire personality is the ultimate act of rebellion against a past that taught you to stay small.

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Navigating the Internal Shit Storm

When you decide to be unhinged about your growth, you aren't just walking into sunshine; you are walking into a mixed bag of emotions that can feel like a total internal earthquake.

First, you’re going to meet guilt. It’s going to be heavy and loud. You’ll feel it because you’ve spent your whole life conditioned to believe that your value is tied to your usefulness to others.

When you stop being "useful" in the ways people expect, your brain sounds an alarm. This guilt isn't a sign that you’re doing something wrong, it’s just the ghost of your old survival strategies mourning the loss of control.

Then, you’ll encounter isolation. It’s the chillness that follows when you stop participating in the dysfunction you once thought was normal . You might look around and realize that certain people only loved the version of you that didn't have a voice. 

This loneliness can be sharp, but it's necessary. It’s the "waiting room" of healing and also the space between who you were and who you are becoming.

But then, the liberation hits. It’s the ability to breathe without feeling like you’re taking oxygen away from someone else. 

I can’t fully explain what a calm nervous system feels like, but I know I feel it now. It’s a specific type of euphoria that has to be lived with vigor… a steady power that makes you realize you were never the problem.

Always remember to welcome every single one of these emotions as they come. They are all just messengers. 

But recognize this too: you don't need to become everything you feel. 

If this is something you’re still struggling with and you have no idea where to start, check out my 4-week workbook. It’ll help you notice and name patterns, understand what shaped you doesn’t have to define you, and give you the empowerment to finally live for YOU.

With love and total audacity - see you next Saturday. ❤️

Suttida