The Weight of Emotions

Much of healing and growing comes down to how we meet our emotions.

A recurring theme I hear over and over again is the belief that emotions should be controlled or regulated.

I grew up in a home where explosive anger was the norm. You hit, you scream, you yell, then you make sure the other person is scared and belittled. It was a storm that rewired my nervous system before I even had language for it.

As a kid, watching that kind of rage teaches you survival strategies: suppress your feelings, shut down, stay quiet, disappear.

You learn to read the room before you read yourself. You learn to keep the peace even when it costs you. And the body takes notes.

As an adult, those same patterns either keep you silent turning your pain inward or they erupt in the very same destructive ways you once feared.

Neither one is okay. Both are echoes of the same wound. And both extremes teach you to abandon yourself.

They convince you that safety lives in silence or in control, when real safety has always been in presence, in honesty, in staying with yourself.

The more you do, the more trauma continues to live in your body. As Dr. Gabor Maté has shown, trauma that isn’t processed doesn’t just disappear—it embeds itself. It shows up physically, mentally, emotionally.

A different way to think about emotions

Emotions aren’t problems to be fixed. 

They’re signals… telling you where pain still lives, where healing still calls. Regulating your emotions doesn’t mean suppressing them or exploding with them.

It means creating enough safety within your nervous system to stay present with them without abandoning yourself.

This is not a one-and-done destination. And again, it’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about building a practice.

Conditioning your nervous system the way you’d condition a muscle: slowly, consistently, with compassion.

Over time, you learn that presence with your emotions won’t destroy you, it frees you.

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I’ve gotten message after message asking: “Do you work with people 1:1?”

Truth is, I wasn’t planning to. But the more I kept hearing it, the more I realized this space needs to exist.

So, I’m opening up 10 more spots only for a one‑month deep dive—real, personal, and honest.

This isn’t a group. Not a course. Not therapy. Not coaching. Not mentoring. Just you and me, focused on your healing and growth.

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Still learning and growing with you. ❤️

Suttida